Safe Wife

WHO WE ARE

Safe Wife provides our wives and engaged women with the resources, tools and support that is so desperately needed for women experiencing an unhealthy, violent relationship with their husband or fiancé.

Wife Talk Safe Wife

Wife Talk Safe Wife was established to support the needs of our Engaged and Ready women and our Wives that are experiencing domestic violence in any form. To give them a safe haven to get resources to help them remove themselves safely from the environment that they are living in. There are many forms of domestic violence.

​Lethality involved with physical abuse may place the victim at higher risk, but the long term destruction of person-hood that accompanies the other forms of abuse is significant and cannot be minimized

​Being able to recognize the many versions of abuse can save a life.

Control

Controlling behavior is a way for the batterer to maintain his dominance over the victim. Controlling behavior, the belief that he is justified in the controlling behavior, and the resultant abuse is the core issue in abuse of women. It is often subtle, almost always insidious, and pervasive. This may include but is not limited to:

Checking the mileage on the odometer following her use of the car.

Monitoring phone calls, using caller ID or other number monitoring devises, not allowing her to make or receive phone calls.

Not allowing her freedom of choice in terms of clothing styles, makeup or hairstyle. This may include forcing her to dress more seductively or more conservatively than she is comfortable.

Calling or coming home unexpectedly to check up on her. This may initially start as what appears to be a loving gesture, but becomes a sign of jealousy or possessiveness.

Invading her privacy by not allowing her time and space of her own.

Forcing or encouraging her dependency by making her believe that she is incapable of surviving or performing simple tasks without the batterer or on her own.

Using the children to control the mother by using the children as spies, threatening to kill, hurt or kidnap the children, physical and/or sexual abuse of the children, and threats to call Child Protective Services if the mother leaves the relationship.

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is any physically aggressive behavior, withholding of physical needs, indirect physically harmful behavior, or threat of physical abuse. This may include but is not limited to:

• Hitting, kicking, biting, slapping, shaking, pushing, pulling, punching, choking, beating, scratching, pinching, pulling hair, stabbing, shooting, drowning, burning, hitting with an object, threatening with a weapon, or threatening to physically assault.
• Withholding of physical needs including interruption of sleep or meals, denying money, food, transportation, or help if sick or injured, locking victim into or out of the house, refusing to give or rationing necessities.
• Abusing, injuring, or threatening to injure others like children, pets, or special property.
• Forcible physical restraint against her will, being trapped in a room or having her exit blocked, being held down.
• The batterer hitting or kicking walls, doors, or other inanimate objects during an argument, throwing things in anger,destruction of property.
• Holding the victim hostage.